This month always puts into motion something for my upcoming year. I wonder what it will be this year! Even if it doesn’t it is the start of a pleasant climate in Mumbai, my birthday, my best friend’s wedding, her birthday and the 3rd-month birthday of my dear daughter, Sarah!
These are reasons enough to celebrate! It is the little things in life, the memories, our people, the good times, that make life worthwhile. These little things can be missed if you blink, so be careful and cherish every minute of it! 🙂
I plan to make a note of these little things of my life on my blog. Hope I write regularly and you have a good time reading these experiences!
Till then, adios, make every little thing count! 🙂
I just came across this little poem I had written back in 2011. It is not literary rich, neither deep, just something that reflected my state of mind. I never published it on my blog, because you know how it is with putting up something too close to your heart out there. You would just be judged and talked about! To avoid this, it had been in my personal folder, for longer than I remember.
The purpose I dug up this one, is because today it would be a year to our wedding and when I look back at that 5 year older self, I wish I could ask her to cheer up a bit and have faith.
Growing up it was mandatory to be in a relationship, everyone was. Today it is a little different; you can be free, independent and not a freak. But back then ( I know I sound too old :P) it wasn’t the case.
Fortunately I had my friends for me always, keeping me busy, giving me the idea, that I hardly had any time for a relationship. Yes, there used to be some lonely moments where I would type out something like this, but for the most part, I was doing good.
When people were planning to take things further in their relationship and getting married, I was busy thinking about plans for their bachelorette parties!
Completely losing the idea that I need to find someone too! That’s when he came along, won my heart with his humility and wins my heart over and over again even today.
I wish us a Happy Married Life, it is just one year down, and there are so many more to go, which I look forward to! (I just wish I would’ve met him a little earlier.)
The only thing I realize and understand, is that, things may not work out as planned, things may not happen the way you want. But one shouldn’t be downed by disappointment. If falling in love is your dream, have faith you will, if travelling the world alone is your dream, have faith you will. Waiting for it to happen is the hardest part I know.
But recently I came across this beautiful quote;
We must accept finite disappointment but not lose infinite hope.
Well, this little thing has been in my head for a few days now! Actually, since the day I saw or to be precise, noticed an interesting little thing! I won’t go into details, but someone had made his/her friend’s day special by writing notes on chart papers and posted it over a bridge of a railway station! And my immediate reaction was, wow! Who must have thought about that? Something, I would totally love to do for the special people in my life!
Then I thought about it for a while, I discussed it with my friends, and their reaction was, wish someone does it for me!! Surprisingly, that is when I realized that this one thought never occurred to me. But, I always love to have such crazy ideas myself, so maybe that is why! It is so amusing to see how different people perceive the same thing!
That made me think even more, and as I pondered over it! (I know it wasn’t necessary, but what the hell! :P) So as I pondered over it and the whole idea of ‘perception’ actually intrigued me!
Let us imagine a ‘what if’ situation!
I mean, yeah it is all exciting and amazing, if someone makes you feel that special, by doing crazy things for you! Now, here comes the “what if” – What if, the person who did something crazy for you isn’t someone you really ‘click with’!? In that case, the whole scenario changes, doesn’t it? I mean, suddenly, unnecessarily that person becomes creepy, crazy, or someone on those lines! You might even see and share some posts or videos (where you-tubers think they are really funny 😛 )where such people are stereotyped and made fun of!
That crazy person would just believe that he/she is going to be a lonely loser all his life! Maybe that’s how I was too! And more than once I’d felt in my life, I’m just too crazy or weird for people to understand! That is when slowly some of my now close friends came into my life, and really loved and accepted me for what I am! I think that’s the best kind of gift anyone can give you in a friendship! I might have scared people by over-doing things in a friendship, but those stayed back, who could see through it!
It is a blessing to be loved by someone who accepts you for what you are! Someone who knows your little flaws, can read your mind just by looking at your face (Even though you are trying to figure out what exactly is going on in that neuronal mess)! Some say this person should be your friend, I say, in my case a friend is a small word to describe that blessing! Yes, I’m talking about my husband! I can go on forever, so I will just reserve my thoughts, maybe for some other time!
To put it in the simplest words ever said,
“You’re not perfect, sport, and let me save you the suspense: this girl you’ve met, she’s not perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other.”
Many people ask me, what I want to be addressed as! And when I tell them it is Ms. Sameeta Golatkar! I get varied sets of expressions and questions! Well the most common reaction is; I had thought you are a feminist, how can you stand such redundant traditions! Well firstly I don’t call myself a hard-core feminist/feminazi! I just believe every individual should be treated as equal and his/her opinion should be respected! A person whether male or female is entitled to his or her opinion.
Well maybe people don’t get it and that is why they keep questioning and judging my opinions and decisions! The other most common question is! ‘Don’t you think you are losing your identity?’ Well, I still kept my first name, I didn’t get it changed and as far as I know my professional identity is as Sameeta ma’am and Personal identity as Sammy, none involve the surname! So well, no it doesn’t affect me as far as my identity is concerned! If my name was to be changed, I might have raised a little hell, maybe a lot! 😛
So I totally understand when people don’t like their names to be changed, be it last or first! Judging any one of us based on our choices does more harm than good.
My reasons are a combination of ‘something silly’, conventional and something generally considered as immature. Haven’t we all as teenagers doodled our name with our crush’s last name! Those nostalgic innocent memories still bring a smile to my face and so does changing my name post marriage. Yes, like a true teenager from the 90s I feel cute as well as romantic about the change. In fact Mrs. Sameeta Golatkar has a nice ring to it! Not that it felt any bad earlier but this feels more complete, exactly the same as I feel with my other half! Call me silly, but who said I am not!
Also, Sammy G sounds so cool something like Johnny G (a movie I enjoy any given time). And of course I can now happily gloat using the tag-line, ‘G mane Genius”.
Then why not two surnames? That way I, rather my name, can have the best of both worlds. It is just something I can’t wrap my head around! Plus the child will take the father’s last name! And whether I keep just my maternal last name, or keeping them both. I would feel like a piece of puzzle that doesn’t fit, like an outcast, ‘the one with the different last name’. Not a part of the team, and I don’t want it that way!!
Love it or hate it, I chose to take up the change! It wasn’t the easy way out in fact changing procedures officially are a headache! But I don’t mind!
I saw Interstellar today after a long wait! A very long indeed! Am I here to review it? No! That has been said and done by many!
Did I love the movie?, Yes! Without any doubt! Anything remotely related to time, dimensions and relativity has always fascinated me!
I can never claim, I have understood every aspect of the theories given in the movie! But who is looking at it like that!? I’m loving that movie because it is beyond the theories! Because somewhere deep down it means, science is for the believer! For the one who trusts every intuition, every gut feeling, because for such people nothing in this universe is without a reason!
I have taken most of the decisions in life based on feelings rather than rational thinking! I may spend hours, days, deciding over things, but ending up going what my insides /the universe tells me to do! I have made mistakes, but have I taken a wrong decision?, I don’t think so! Because every mistake has taught me something new, leaving no space for regret!!
I’m not saying that it is the best and the most right way to live life! But it is the way I like to live mine! Having faith in the feeling, having faith in love…
Love is the one thing that transcends space and time!!
Have you ever experienced it? This, running out of words!…..
I just realised I can use this excuse for not blogging as enough as I used to as a teenager! Back then I was in the quest of those people I could talk to! Maybe I had the same people back then, but sharing wasn’t the same. There were fears, worries, complexes!
These people then developed a bond so strong, that now it is easier to talk to them! The times have changed, the problems too! Our thoughts have changed with the relationship with that person too! Now, once you start talking you have words forming in your head, and easily coming out of your system, making you feel lighter! With them you can share anything and everything you could ask for! Long gone are the judgemental days and the person is now not just giving you advice or trying to be nice, they understand what you are trying to say, even if it is between the lines!
And after a day with such lovely gems you have collected over the years and preserved all this while! When you sit staring at your laptop screen, you feel a light-headedness, because you are all out of words!!! All your synonyms for burdens, happiness, have been bore by the people in your life! And you can only be glad for them, even though that means a little less of the writing 🙂
You wake up and check your Facebook Newsfeeds, it is full with sarcastic humour! Hate blogs, open letters, critical reviews and what not! Complaints and rants about the people around hashtagging them as stereotypes!
If we could just all take a step back we would realize, the not-mainstream has actually become mainstream! Not being a cliché is suddenly the biggest cliché around!!
Well, in situations like this, being the little punk that I’m I go around searching for another stream which hasn’t become main yet! And in the process of doing that, I’ve realized, only if people stop worrying about hashtags, about judging about categorizing in real life!
By hashtagging I mean, stereotyping, categorizing, judging, etc. Okay I will put my point across by giving a few examples especially prevalent in posts shared these days!
Girls don’t want to be judged by the clothes they chose to wear, if someone dresses simply or maybe eye-catchin or sultry, please do not judge based on that! Whether she is easy, lame, townie un-cool or whatever! All the fashion blogs, stop policing people! I’ve always read on such fashion blogs that, fashion is about being confident in whatever you please. So, who is being a hypocrite now!?
Then there are posts saying, ‘why not getting married in 20s is good’, some saying otherwise! Shush! It is an individual’s (couple’s) personal decision! They can take it anytime, neither is 20s early, nor the 30s late, it is when they are ready with their partners to take that decision! So chuck the hate and be happy for them!
Remaining posts are about people cribbing and complaining of the people around! If some person you came across is being partial to someone from his hometown…that is the only way he knows! Don’t be hurt and just accept his ways (M sure you have your own ways too)! You never know when he would start favoring you! Neighboring aunties are always going to have an opinion and stories over your life, gossip is their entertainment, don’t let them affect you, no need for all the hate posts for them! That won’t change them; maybe if you stop caring a damn about what they say, might make them eventually give up!
Don’t dump your besties or partners because, they have that one flaw you read online on some post and it is a strict no-no in a relationship. Because of which you now feel the need to drop them like a hot potato!! Don’t forget you have accepted and happened to love them unconditionally with all their flaws! Of course, bid them farewell, if they are hurting you and are making you unhappy! But let that decision be yours… not driven by all the hate out there!
These are just a few examples of all the negativity!
As the recent Taylor Swift’s song goes,
Hater’s gonna hate..hate hate hate hate…
Baby, I’m gonna Shake It off.. Shake it off!!
So just shake off the judgmental glasses! Leave all the hastags for social networking and not socialsing! Enjoy every aspect of humans around with all the flaws! Give love and and that is what you will get in return!
Hey wait a minute, didn’t I myself just write a hate post!? But it was for hate posts!!!. Well… double negative just made it positive! 😉 I’m going to spread my positivity around..hope you do to!!
….Cz love makes the world go round (Powerpuff Girls)